How to Ask Another Person for Reassurance Without Appearing to Be Desperate for Their Approval
The School of Life (previously) explains why the very human need for reassurance can also be terrifying and bring about discomfiting abandonment and approval issues that lead to further insecurity. Instead of spiraling into that endless cycle, they suggest reminding yourself that this particular need is a normal part of a loving relationship, without anything ever for which to feel shame.
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