Since I moved in, my boyfriend will only sleep in our bed twice a week| Ask Annalisa Barbieri

Something about this has triggered past feelings for both of you. The key is to unlock the roots of these feelings

I recently moved in with my boyfriend of just over a year. We were both clear from the outset we really value our personal space, and needed a bedroom each.

Since we moved in together, it's become clear that we have very different feelings about spending the night together. My boyfriend doesn't want to spend more than two nights a week together. For me, the optimum number of nights apart is two or three a week, max.