Could four of us having a baby together be the answer to parental burnout? I’m hoping to find out | Eleanor Margolis

Our society does not make it easy to be a parent, but with four of us onboard, I think it could work

I need to phone him; that's the only way to do this without sounding deranged. How do you explain to a friend, via text, that you'd maybe like to have a baby with some of his friends that you met at his barbecue the other day?

My partner, Leo, and I have become a version of the we saw you from across the bar and dig your vibe" meme - a poke at sexually adventurous couples looking for a threesome". We're more like: We saw you from across a gathering of thirtysomethings and wondered if you'd be down to help us redesign the nuclear family."

Eleanor Margolis is a columnist for the i newspaper and Diva

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