Some babies sleep well, some don’t – beware those selling easy fixes | Rhiannon Lucy Cosslett

As parents, we are bombarded with rituals and superstitions to get our children sleeping through the night

I'm not going to tell you whether or not my baby is sleeping. If I say he is and your baby is not, then you will hate me. And if I say that he isn't, I will immediately be bombarded with unsolicited advice, usually for a fee. The shysters are already circling.

Besides, nothing lasts for ever. When the baby was very small and I wondered if he might become a good sleeper", other parents delighted in telling me about the four-month sleep regression. Then I found a scientific article claiming it was a myth and decided that if I refused to believe in it, then it would not come for me. I'll let you know how that goes, I could say, but I won't. I'm very tired, but most of all I'm tired of talking and thinking about baby sleep.

Rhiannon Lucy Cosslett is a Guardian columnist and author