I’m a Sudanese woman – the protests in Iran mirror my own tangled history with clothing and freedom | Basma Khalifa

As a teenager, I argued with my parents about covering up. Then I saw a photo of my mother wearing a short dress in 1950s Sudan

On 16 September, Mahsa Amini was arrested by Iran's morality police after supposedly wearing her hijab incorrectly and sporting skinny jeans. Later that night, she died in their custody. Amini's family claim the morality police beat her to death, an accusation they have since denied. What has followed have been the country's largest protests in recent years. Iranians of all ages, ethnicities and genders have joined in the demonstrations. I watched on and did my due diligence by posting on social media too, but I also couldn't help reflect on my own relationship to clothing - and freedom.

Can you be free and wear the hijab? It's worn by many of my family and friends, and it was always presented to me as a choice when I was young. Modesty, however, was more important. I'm of Sudanese origin but I grew up in Northern Ireland, where, as a teenager, it wasn't trendy to cover up. I spent years battling with my parents, who would be telling me that I was showing too much skin, that I should never show my cleavage or midriff. In the late 1990s fashions changed from crop tops to long T-shirts. I remember my mother's relief that we wouldn't have to go through the go get changed" conversation every time I wanted to leave the house.

Basma Khalifa is a Sudanese multi-disciplinary creative living in London

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