Article 66QHQ Framing men as the ‘villains’ gets women no closer to better romantic relationships | Moya Lothian-McLean

Framing men as the ‘villains’ gets women no closer to better romantic relationships | Moya Lothian-McLean

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Moya Lothian-McLean
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Romantic victimhood allows us to believe we're forever the wounded party - and that men are incapable of change

There is a genre in ascendancy at the moment that I've labelled romantic victimhood". Content that falls within this category - ranging from literary screeds to TikTok confessionals - only ever characterises the players in two roles: villain or victim.

The villain is always a man. It is usually a man in a relationship with a woman, although sometimes it is a man dating a man. Nevertheless: man = villain. The victim is his romantic interest. They recount his behaviour, with the benefit of hindsight, and detail upsetting incidents, usually ones where they felt slighted in some way. These are typically imparted in the register now employed to describe a harm, which combines sombre, stark delivery with therapeutic jargon. The harm is not anything as easily categorisable as outright abuse, or sexual assault. It is a hurt, perhaps one of many, that have added up to create an ultimately bad relationship".

Moya Lothian-McLean is a contributing editor at Novara Media

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