We’re a queer couple looking for co-parents to raise a child with. It’s been quite a saga | Eleanor Margolis

From unsolicited offers of sperm to procreation freaks', our quest for someone just right has certainly been an eye-opener

Hi, do you need sperm? I have a supply ;) When do you want to meet?" This isn't a message from somewhere deep within my hidden requests folder on Instagram. This seedy correspondence - in the most literal sense - is just one example of the kinds of messages my partner and I have been receiving over the past year in our search to find a couple or single person to co-parent with.

For us, the ideal parenting setup would consist of three or four of us sharing responsibility for a child (the others involved would also be responsible for providing the sperm). The way we see it, why not use the implicit obstacles we face as a same-sex couple to become parents in a way that works for us and redefines the family unit completely?

Eleanor Margolis is a columnist for the i newspaper and Diva

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