I’m a devout agnostic. But, like Nick Cave, I hunger for meaning in our chaotic world | John Harris

The spiritual aridity of modern life can be tough to handle. Maybe that's why the singer, and his new album Wild God, have struck a nerve

There is a tension in 21st-century life that may come close to defining how millions of us now live. Whenever we want to commune with other people, we need only reach for an object the size of a Twix and there they all are: scores of acquaintances and a veritable galaxy of complete strangers, offering insights and opinions on a huge range of subjects. But our online lives too often revolve around a mixture of anger, silliness and superficiality.

Where do we go and who can we find to meaningfully share our thoughts about life's inescapable fundamentals: love, loss, death, fear, bereavement, regret? To properly do so might require real-world company, which can be an equally big ask. Think about all this, and you will sooner or later collide with something that predates the internet: the long and steady secularisation of life in the west and the vast social holes it has left. Once, for all their in-built hypocrisies - and worse - churches at least offered somewhere to ritualistically consider all of life's most elemental aspects. Now, beyond communities with high levels of Christian observance, they are largely either empty or woefully underattended.

John Harris is a Guardian columnist