I thought I needed alcohol to enjoy sex… but being sober made it so much better

Drunk sex was the only kind I could have with a new guy - until I quit drinking and focussed on sexual satisfaction

I never expected I'd be proud of myself for having a one-night stand. Before I quit drinking, I'd always say I "loved dating". Truthfully, I loved drinking and drunk sex was often the logical conclusion of the evening. I'd convince myself that having four or five drinks on a Wednesday and going home with a guy I just met was an "investment" in trying to get into a relationship, because nothing screams girlfriend-material like abruptly leaving at 2am to avoid wetting the bed.

I was drunk every single time I had sex with someone new until I quit drinking entirely. I'd have sober sex with them later, once I got comfortable, but never the first time. Drinking felt critical to exposing myself - alcohol replaced clothing and physical distance as my security blanket.