In Buckingham Palace and outside it, we know what it means when people ask ‘where are you from’

When Susan Hussey asked that of a black British charity boss, she echoed the words of many who alienate people of colour

Where are you from?" is a question that every person in my family has been asked, from my parents in the 1960s to my little nephew, crying on his way back from school. I've faced the question from schoolteachers who want to know if I speak English, dates trying to exoticise me - and a manager who laughed afterwards, knowing he should not have asked.

Where are you really from?" is the follow-up, if you don't give someone what they want. While the question can come from a place of curiosity, it is hard to ignore the sinister undertones, especially when it's repeated.