Ditch a friend for being ‘toxic’? I’d never do that | Maeve Higgins

Short of murder, there is nothing a friend could do that would make me say, I feel like you're a little toxic. Goodbye.'

I lost a friend today, physically. She didn't die. Worse, she moved to LA. I'm having a hard time with the idea of not seeing her every week, of not being in the same city, of no longer knowing that she is close by.

I asked another friend if this was normal, this sad heaviness I'm carrying around just because a friend of mine is moving away. I'll still see her sometimes, when she's back in New York," I explained miserably, and we're going to talk on FaceTime and all of that." This friend said maybe I was sad because when a friend does something, like moving across the country, it makes you question your own choices in life. Absolutely not, I said to myself, realizing at once that it was not that deep. The reason I was crying on the subway platform, that public/private tunnel of tears, was because my friend is leaving.