Family troubles
by sockst1tch from LinuxQuestions.org on (#6QMW4)
Sorry if this is wildly off-topic even for a general forum board, but I wanted to post this on here just to get perspectives from those outside of my family and friend circle.
I have 3 older sisters. I was never really super close with them growing up, but there's definitely a sibling bond there. My oldest sister is 10 years my senior and although, like I said, we were never close, I've always had a protective instinct when it comes to her. It's probably some primal thing but I've never liked her boyfriends. She's had 3 in her life, and each time I've felt uneasy about them. Every time I was right about them. The first one started photographing naked women in his free time, and the second one up and left the state in the middle of the night. While those men were present in her life, they never really put themselves out there. Her third boyfriend was a little different. My other siblings love him. He's a jokester, he wears trendy clothes, he has a cool haircut, he's in good shape, everything a typical American citizen adores.
But I can't shake this feeling I have. I do not like him. A couple months ago, to my dismay, he decided to propose to my sister. Now I know it's probably not any of my business whether or not they get married, it's her life after all, but there's always been this tension. My parents also adore him, and my siblings will have endless conversations and laughs with him, but I can't bring myself to, and I know he notices. It's the elephant in the room most of the time, but he hasn't said anything. I've considered saying something to him, but I don't know what to say. I don't want to keep living with this hatred for him if he's gonna stick around.
So my question is what do I do? I know we're both aware of this tension, but I don't WANT to accept him. I simply can't. On the other hand, I don't want to keep playing this awkward game where he tries to get me to like him, and I look the other way. It's infuriating most of the time because I can't enjoy myself with him there. My sisters come over for dinner every week and they bring their boyfriends and when he's not there, I bond with them, something I've always wanted, but if he's there I can't help but sit and pout.
I have 3 older sisters. I was never really super close with them growing up, but there's definitely a sibling bond there. My oldest sister is 10 years my senior and although, like I said, we were never close, I've always had a protective instinct when it comes to her. It's probably some primal thing but I've never liked her boyfriends. She's had 3 in her life, and each time I've felt uneasy about them. Every time I was right about them. The first one started photographing naked women in his free time, and the second one up and left the state in the middle of the night. While those men were present in her life, they never really put themselves out there. Her third boyfriend was a little different. My other siblings love him. He's a jokester, he wears trendy clothes, he has a cool haircut, he's in good shape, everything a typical American citizen adores.
But I can't shake this feeling I have. I do not like him. A couple months ago, to my dismay, he decided to propose to my sister. Now I know it's probably not any of my business whether or not they get married, it's her life after all, but there's always been this tension. My parents also adore him, and my siblings will have endless conversations and laughs with him, but I can't bring myself to, and I know he notices. It's the elephant in the room most of the time, but he hasn't said anything. I've considered saying something to him, but I don't know what to say. I don't want to keep living with this hatred for him if he's gonna stick around.
So my question is what do I do? I know we're both aware of this tension, but I don't WANT to accept him. I simply can't. On the other hand, I don't want to keep playing this awkward game where he tries to get me to like him, and I look the other way. It's infuriating most of the time because I can't enjoy myself with him there. My sisters come over for dinner every week and they bring their boyfriends and when he's not there, I bond with them, something I've always wanted, but if he's there I can't help but sit and pout.