On a street in Minneapolis, two versions of masculinity clashed. One anchored in fear, the other in care | Alexander Hurst

Alex Pretti had courage and empathy. This, not Maga's conception of male power, is what we must teach young men

The first thing that grabbed me about the Rapture's 2011 song It Takes Time to be a Man was the warbly, analogue fuzz of its recurring guitar and piano riff. Once that drew me in, what kept me listening were the lyrics' hard-marriage of masculinity and empathy. In the final verse, Luke Jenner tells us that: Well there's room in your heart now / for excellence to take a stand / And there's tears that need shedding / it's all part of the plan".

For the past year, rightwing voices have waged war on empathy. According to Elon Musk, empathy is the fundamental weakness of western civilisation". Others go further, calling it toxic", suicidal" and even sinful". Certainly, the macho wing of the Maga right sees no place for it amid its (mis)appropriation of medieval history and imagery that is visible everywhere from the face paint and horned headdress of the QAnon shaman", convicted for his role in the US Capitol siege, to the tattooed arms and body of Donald Trump's secretary of war, Pete Hegseth.

And yet, consider the ideal of chivalry held by medieval knights: generosity and suspicion of profit, courtesy, honesty and the bind of your word, hospitality, abiding by the rules of combat and granting mercy to your adversary - whose life a knight takes only as a last resort. I say this not because I think the medieval knight should be the new standard for modern men, but to point out that Maga men would fail, miserably so, to live up to their own ideals.

Alexander Hurst is a Guardian Europe columnist. His memoir, Generation Desperation, is published in January 2026

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