I have no idea what my husband told his wives when he married me

In this extract from Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah's book The Sex Lives of African Women, a Kenyan woman reflects on life and sex in her polygamous household

• Interview: With some women, I thought, Oh my God, you've cracked the code! You're living your best sex life"'

Nura [not her real name] is a 42-year-old Kenyan woman. She lives in Senegal with her husband and his other wives.

Ishmael and I met in 2018 on Muzmatch, a dating app for Muslims. I had been a convert for about four years and I needed to expand my circle of potential suitors. The Muslim men I met in Kenya were conservative, and I wanted to meet a man who was more like me: well travelled and with a global view of the world.