Life after loneliness: ‘I was homeless, hungry, skint and isolated. Then I found the secret of reconnection’

I had to choose between heating and eating - and ended up going to the library for warmth. There I was drawn into other worlds, bringing me much closer to other people

I have dealt with ostracism since early childhood. ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) and ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) do not benefit from confinement in a classroom, where bouncing off the walls is frowned upon. In other words, I was expelled from almost every school I attended. I even got kicked out of a special school, which I look back on as an achievement of sorts. Surely being expelled from a school for naughty kids for being a naughty kid deserves some kind of recognition?

But I was also excluded from home and bounced around foster placements and children's homes like I was trapped in the world's most depressing game of pinball. Inevitably, exclusion tends to make one feel excluded. Lonely may as well be my last name.